Candor: The Art of Gesticulation

Christian Weber Questions the Body Language of Relationships, While Sheila Heti Ponders Their Very Necessity

A fascination with eastern spirituality led New York-based photographer and director Christian Weber to work on Speak and Spell, a series of photographs that examine human gesture. This spurred a collaboration with art directors Marius Zorrilla and Kiku Aromir and writer Toni Segarra on a new short film, Candor, that analyzes the requirements for a successful relationship. Influenced by the early short films of Peter Greenaway as well as Jørgen Leth’s 1967 classic The Perfect Human, the graphic nature of the black-and-white film here accentuates the dramatic texture of skin. “For me it was trying to walk that fine line between creating animations or illustrations of the work, but actually leaving in human gestures and self-conscious moments,” explains Weber, whose clients include Levi’s, Myspace and Bottega Veneta. “Whether it’s the tapping of the fingers, the way you embrace somebody’s hand or the way you cross your finger over somebody else’s—all of those things mean something. That was part of the underlying tone here: that pure human honesty or candor that exists in our relationships, and how we interact with each other.” But what if you just can’t connect with that special someone? NOWNESS asked Canadian writer Sheila Heti—behind one of New Yorker's 2012 books of the year How Should a Person Be?—to philosophize on the problem of coupling.

Please Don’t Break Up

A few years ago, I got hooked on a blog called Please Don’t Break Up. It showed found photographs of couples, and beneath each photograph was a weird, funny, poetic plea, written by the administrator of the site (and comic), David Dineen-Porter. Below a shot of a happy couple in bathing suits, standing in front of the Grand Canyon, arms around each other, he had written: Please don’t go live in separate apartments. That would be the saddest thing. Beneath a dumplingish old couple in powder-blue formal wear, embracing each other in a 70s living room: If your relationship were an animal, it would be the cute baby version of that animal. Go out on a date, again and again. Please don’t break up, Jeth and Faruk. 

I thought about the site daily. Please Don’t Break Up felt like a lost bit of wisdom in our world—so simple. The phrase played itself over and over, like a beautiful song in my head. I was moved by the idea of someone being invested in the fate of another person’s relationship—the relationship of strangers, even. The idea that people should be together simply because they already were together felt hilarious, obvious and profound. I saw it for the first time: Commitment wasn’t merely important to love, it made it love. 

Yet when I was with my boyfriend, I longed to be with my friends, and when I was with my friends, I criticized myself for not being a committed sort of animal who could make love last. I felt there was something wrong with me. Please Don’t Break Up seemed to be the missing ingredient in my life—and the lives of my friends who lived as I lived, traveling from one person to the next. Wouldn’t we be more likely to be cosily ensconced in a long-term relationship if we were a little less dispassionate about the lives of our peers—if our breaking up had some resonant effect on our community? How stupid we were to avoid this investment; to refrain from pleading with our friends, "Please don’t break up!” when a break-up seemed nigh. 

My desire to break up with my boyfriend irritated me. I wanted to cut out this part of myself. I wanted to secure my resolve by setting my friends upon the scales. Why didn’t they care more? Lacking social censure (and other things, too), we eventually broke up. And I felt like myself again. I realized I was happy. And I was happy that no one had told me not to break up. 

All of this was happening around the time of a big natural disaster in the world. I remember reading reports on the internet of people being stuck in airports—they had to remain in Japan, or America, or wherever they were—for weeks. Some could not even cross the city. Many couples who had planned to break up were forced to keep living together—because of the floods, and the strong winds that tore everything down. It was as if Mother Nature herself was pleading, “Please don’t break up!” 

A few months later, I read a story about one of these couples, who’d felt their love was through, and wanted to break up, but because of a fallen palm tree blocking their front door, wound up happily married.

Sometimes, it takes a force from the inside to make love last. And sometimes it comes from without—when it is the winds that whisper through the windows who say, “It is not break-up time today.”

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Conversations (5)

  • mr. Jones
    simple. primal. beautiful. i would make love with this flickering in the background.
  • corrinnewithluv
    I love this video, i think it highlights the dangers of what could go wrong in a relationship that people tend to forget. i would like to add A) people stay in a relationship that causes anxiety instead of comfort because they are longing for the comfort back and not understanding why it has gone or how to get the loving relationship back. B) yes this is the basics, but under all the emotions, all the memories all the input from 'well meaning' friends & family the basic can get lost especially in a long term relationship C) mentally handicapped aside, yes there are people out there that don't know this. they might get the commitment part but not have the communication skills to convey their feelings, also shyness can lack the ability to communicate,, some people might think their communication is good "tell them what they want to hear" and not realise the honesty part . another point is they might have the caring , the weak communication but not the commitment of dates and seeing them a number of times a week and they think by nagging (weak communication ) as to why the partner doesn't see them all the time, is not doing the trick, not realising if they communicate honestly and openly things might develop more. As for the caring side... well there are a number of abusive relationships out there that have commitment and communication, but not honest or caring. Sometimes when things get in a muddled mess you need something like simple point 1,2,3. I do think that this video conveys a relationship going wrong and answers to why in a simple way...
    • Posted By corrinnewithluv
    • February 12, 2014 at 7:41PM
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  • Garbage
    Holy ***** this video is SO bad. A) It's unnerving, unsettling, anxiety inducing. This doesn't make the video ***** clever (or edgy). The idea of art today is so skewed it's ***** ridiculous. If the point of this was to be "Anxiety inducing because relationships are," then you're probably in the wrong ***** relationship. Why would you be with someone who causes anxiety instead of comfort? B) The person speaking tells you literally the BASICS of any relationship. Commitment. Communication. Honesty. Seriously? Is there a person out there who isn't mentally handicapped or over the age of 13 who DOES NOT already know this? Why does this video exist? I would rather watch a ***** snuff film featuring a relative. This is unfathomably terrible.
    • Posted By Garbage
    • February 04, 2014 at 2:32AM
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  • davidaaron
    human to human, heart to heart, in business and personal relations, a relevant philosophy
  • theoneiota
    jesus this is hypnotic.

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    What would you do for two days in NYC?
    Chris Rock: Central Park is beautiful, especially if you have kids. I like to rent a bike and cycle around the city. Museum-wise, I love MoMA. I saw the Cindy Sherman exhibit there most recently, and it blew me away. I love the city and it really embraced us when we were filming there…
    Julie Delpy: The Guggenheim is a very interesting building and has really fantastic art.
     
    You lived in New York for years. What made you relocate to LA?
    JD: I was raised in the ground floor of an apartment building in Paris in the 15th arrondissement. It was so dark, gray and depressing—I was raised like a rat in sewage! I love being in sunlight and being surrounded by nature. I don’t care if people have fake everything in LA. I want sun and blue skies. That may sound silly, but it’s important to me!
     
    Why set this film in NYC and not LA?
    JD: I didn’t want the film to have anything to do with Hollywood, and so many movies set in LA seem to be about Hollywood and too “Hollywood.”
    CR: Tarantino manages to do LA movies but not make them too Hollywood. And Nicolas Winding Refn managed as well in Drive. Paul Thomas Anderson does LA without Hollywood.
    JD: I agree with Chris, but I really wanted the characters to be New Yorkers. I also didn’t want to shoot in my own city. But I guess it could have been set in LA and in the same world since there is so much art there now. So many young artists live there now because they have followed the money, and New York has also got so expensive.
     
    Two Days in New York is released in the UK on May 18.

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